||• Women Or Goddesses? •|| Sexist Social Norms •||

Women or Goddesses

Modern women are lambasted for not ‘fit’ into the title of the so-called ‘perfect woman’ who is flawlessly managing household chores, husband, in-laws, children hereafter, job, concomitantly. In TV Indian Ads, she is manifested as a woman with several hands who can handle multiple works at a time. The avalanche of works does not produce distress in her nonetheless, provides her euphoria. This is no less than any irony.

Those women who have Godly features are applauded for it and considered the perfect ‘woman’ for a family. The Goddess Sita who went into exile with their husband, Savitri who fought with Yama for the sake of her husband’s life, Goddess Laxmi who life-long served her husband and so on in the row are reckoned the ideal women for copying and mirroring their extra-ordinary features in their self. The illustration of illustrious features aids them to obtain satisfactory social prestige. Society heralded them for their unnatural underlying immolation regardless hinder them. And, women acquiesce it. Moreover, the one who fails to achieve these illustrious features is deemed an unwomanly ‘woman’. The tendency of modern women differs from these ideal goddesses. Society overlooks that women are also human beings and not ‘Goddesses’ who can manage the household and work-life balance simultaneously. women are not meant to be sacrificial. It’s a quintessential time for society to thwart unnatural or regressive practices which are malicious to women. In addition to this, the multitude must prevent justifying the glorification of this disturbing impulse where common women are compared with the heavenly bodies. Following this culture is thoroughly fatuous behavior of sick people.

Likewise, some ignorant populace is spreading a picture where they were comparing the love of a mother who wore western clothes with whom who draped a traditional Saree. They are trying to showcase that solely women with traditional saree can be an abled mother. How can clothes decide the love of a mother? Motherhood is unmatchable affection that can not be measured in magnitude. This (sexist) social behavior should be ended.

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||•Appearance: The True Color of Society•|| The ‘Normal Talk’ •||

The incessant series of ‘Normal Talk’ has brought up the topic of ‘Appearance: The True Color of Societywhere we talk about how we are criticized for our outer appearances.

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-“Beauty lies in the eyes of a beholder”

is a fascinating quoted line to impress anyone. However, how much has this been pertinent to the actual world? Since the beholders hold the too judgmental mind. Body positivity is a fundamental topic that has been disseminated on entire social media nonetheless, breaks the actual interpretation of the populace’s typical social norms that had made unreal beauty standards or being judgemental toward the appearance of the multitude. The impulse of body positivity targets our minds however not able to do it thoroughly. When we met someone for the first time then their outer appearance is the significance that we judge. It is ordinary. However, our judgemental dogma is suitable with the limits. Appearance matters until it became toxic or healthy. Sometimes, our judgment tore the fullness of the individual and we traverse our boundaries. Concerning appearance, people judge their height, weight, physique, size, complexion, and so on. We judge a thing that can’t be changed.

Whether middle-class or elite-class, everyone has to confront it. Nevertheless, the toxicity of the populace surge if you’re a prominent personality like an actor and all. As a recent case exemplifies this data, Anant Ambani, the son of a multi-billionaire businessman Mukesh Ambani, has been trolled for his obesity. Netizens have failed to disclose the fact that he is immensely asthmatic and that is the ground behind his obese physique. On his special occasion, he was trolled for what is not his fault. Correspondingly, Samantha also experienced this exasperating situation where netizens trolled her for evaporated charisma off the back of having a myositis.

Likewise, the multitude of India confronts these sorts of turbulent conditions while some moments in their lives. They have to hear awkward questions regarding their appearance. ‘You are too skinny or too obese are the lines which would be enough to make you go ballistic. Notwithstanding, people know that weight loss and weight gain are things that fluctuate with time and age. Regardless, people comment on these things. In India, teenagers or adults are too afraid to attend family functions owing to being lambasted for their ‘not perfect appearance’. Acne, scars, dark circles, or wrinkles are ordinary skin nuisances that already agitated the individual but constantly remarking it surges the concern more. As far as I concern, people should normalize these issues whether for a common man or distinguished celebrities.

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||• TOXIC SCHOOL MEMORIES •|| THE “NORMAL TALK” •||

The “Normal Talk” presents the typical annoyances of the populace that they experience, but do not share. This time, the ‘Normal Talk’ series is brought your ‘Toxic Memory of School’.

the toxic memories of schools

The quintessential part of our childhood is a school period where we create unforgettable memories of our lives and befriends unknown. Nonetheless, while strolling down memory lane, the very moment becomes agonizing for some people inasmuch toxicity of school life. I wish you don’t have to undergo these vicious circumstances. The level of toxicity segregates. This critical situation becomes more treacherous when you meet a psychopath teacher who bashed you owing to his or her bad mood which they had taken from their home. Their mood swings or family brawls were red signs for you. They left a spy in the classroom to know about the relationships or crushes of students. Henceforth, mocking it in the staff room. They tell the reason behind the low grades in relationships or friendships. Teachers should emphasize on make students engrossed in their studies not harkening on how their love life is going.

Moreover, the girls have to bear slut-shaming sporadically which is typical for a few teachers. They titled you ‘characterless’ for wearing short skirts or talking to boys periodically, for using cosmetics like nail paint, kajal, lipsticks, or accessories like earrings. Talking to the opposite gender reckon the transgression of their rules. The magnitude of their wickedness is too large to bear for the teenagers. Likewise, when I was in the school then, there were a few female teachers sometimes males too who did so. I reckon this, the use of cosmetics is downright detrimental in this tender age. However, their way had to be made it learns is absurd. A myriad of times, celebrities have shared the very moment of their lives where they have to endure this intolerable circumstance.

Innumerable celebrities had to tear this vulnerable situation in their school days. In addition to this, it became an unforgettable reminiscence of anyone’s life.

Despite that, we meet some toxic friends or classmates who do back-biting, drastically. Ultimately, the teachers are the pillar of schools so, they have to stand a soothing ambiance for the students in the school plus, pay heed to their studies, not their personal lives.

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||• Ismad-ud-Doula •||• The “Incredible India” Series •||

Itmad-ud-doula

In the series of ‘Incredible India’, we are gonna exemplify the mesmerizing beauty of the Ismad-ud-doula mausoleum which was constructed under the guidance of empress Nur Jahan (the wife of Jahangir) between 1922 to 1928. It is considered the draft of the Taj Mahal or sometimes, be called the baby Taj. She embraced the impulse of building Itmad-ud-doula from Gol Mandal Temple. It is located near Motibagh in Agra city in Uttar Pradesh. She built the grave in memory of his father Mirza Ghiyaz Beg. As; we considered the Taj Mahal, a symbol of unmatchable love. This could also be called the devotion of a daughter to his father.

This is hailed as a ‘Jewel box’ since its design is parallel to a jewelry box. The pure white and elaborately carved tomb of Itmad-ud-Daulah conforms to the Islamic style of architecture. The use of arched entrances, octagonal-shaped towers or minarets, use of mesmerizingly carved floral patterns, intricate marble-screen work, and inlay work are all manifestations of the Islamic style. The absence of a dome and the presence of a closed kiosk on top of this building and the use of chhatris atop the four towers instead of proper domes are reflective of the influence of the Golmandal temple or the innumerable designs.

The marvelous precursor of the alluring monument ‘The Taj’ has massive idiosyncrasy from the bygone craftsmanship of the Mughals. Before this, Mughal architecture is assembled with red sandstone which is exceedingly rhapsodic however, the monotonous work of pietra dura is beyond it. The craftsmanship of pietra dura is time taking even though alleviates the soul. Ultimately, it is the utter piece of enchanting beauty or archaic glory of India.

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||• The History of Alcohol And Underpriviledged Cosumers of India •||

||• The history of alcohol and underprivileged cosumers of India •||

Alcohol was around for centuries as a component of wine or beer. However, it was not oriented as a separate compound. The first person who discovered pure alcohol (ethanol) by distilling it was an immensely known Iranian/Persian alchemist Mohammad ibn Zakaria Razi.

Approximately 7000 years ago, the fermentation of grain, rice, fruits, honey, millet, or other sugary things create alcohol. In the bygone era, the ancients produced alcohol from any plant or tree they get. Furthermore, alcohol was used for medicinal purposes. Moreover, the populace fetched brandy within the long cruise voyage to keep water fresh longer as it kills harmful microbes. This is the history of this year’s old liquor. However, is it beneficial nowadays as it had been in the yesteryears?

This ancient beverage which is called Alcohol has veered off the lives of Indian families, nowadays. This may be still part of the celebration in elite classes however it is the reason for melancholy in impoverished families.

Almost anything can be preserved in alcohol, except health, happiness, and money.

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Mary Wilson Little had precisely vocalized about alcohol. Alcohol addiction is admittedly affected your health, wealth, and money moreover fetches meaningless brawls in families. This unhealthy beverage put millions of lives on fire. The root of domestic violence and financial unestablishments would be found somewhere in an obsession with alcohol. Those families whose lead is addicted to alcohol have to spend their lives in a lack of jubilation. Their families have to encounter unexpected miseries sometimes and spend their lives in destitution. Several times, hot-blooded murder has been induced by excessive consumption of Alcohol. The hallucinogenic substances in Alcohol provoked hopheads to do unnecessary doings. In addition, their brain sensitivity is responsible for emotional, cognitive, and behavioral effects. The most vicious impacts of this have to bear on the brain and liver. Daily wages workers drink low-grade alcohol or in an exaggerated amount. Consequently, they are predominantly under the poverty line. After them, their families survive in pathetic circumstances. Youngsters are also not abled condition despite, better than the haves not. The fountainhead of liquor henceforth them the equally vicious drugs. According to social class, the disadvantages of it have to confront people.

Every drunkard has their statements regarding drinking alcohol. Daily wages workers say it lessens their physical distress. A few say that they intake alcohol to deal with severe stress. Notwithstanding that consumers have numerous stories about intaking alcohol. Periodically, people drink alcohol during parties, clubbing, or innumerable ceremonies which is not the topic of concern. Nonetheless, there are several types of alcohol consumers and regular drinkers are the most upsetting ones. Ultimately, nothing can justify drinking alcohol.

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||• Sexist Social Norms •||

Break the sexist social norms

Sexist Social Norms

The unshackled women are considered the fortunate ones plus the abled manifestation of empowered women. Nevertheless, the life of fortunate ones becomes sophisticated meanwhile serving two jobs. They have to balance household chores and their jobs, simultaneously. They have been unfettered by society for their breakthrough or be dependent. Notwithstanding the freedom of being empowered, they are uncaged with an unseen chain on them. While serving toward their career, they have to do household work unaided. This gradually broadens stress level or push them to be choleric. Similarly to this, Subarna Ghosh, the co-founder of an NGO called ReRight, had become irresistible during the lockdown owing to the unfair burden of unending household works along with the burden of jobs. In protest, she had commenced an online petition urging to share household works by Indian husbands. She coaxed her petition before PM Narendra Modi to appeal to Indian men to aid her wives in inside chores. Her petition was signed by 79000+ signatures. She bolstered the urge of millions of Indian women. This petition of Subarna Ghosh is a substantial impulse to break the prejudiced social norms which is revealing an essence of a patriarchal society in the modern world. Furthermore, she stopped doing household for manifesting her protest inside her home.

“The sink was overflowing with unwashed dishes and the pile of laundry grew bigger and bigger,” she told it in an interview on BBC.

To mull over her exasperation, her children did the household chores.

As far as I am concerned considering this topic, I felt the despair of employed women toward the biased behavior of society concerning household chores which is equally a duty of a man alike a woman. As; populace has modernized about the equal division of accumulating a livelihood. Whereas they have to display equality in household work as well. Society should break this sexist social norms to uncage rights of women.

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||• MEN CAN NOT BE RAPE VICTIMS •||(Break the stereotype)

Presented in Break the Stereotype Series (Topic 2)


Correspondingly, ‘solely weak’ can be molested or raped. Ergo, a false notion has been formed by society that ‘solely women’ can be subdued by men which means society considers ‘exclusively women’ to be rape victims or vulnerable and men do not endure this during their lifetime. Regardless of that, these exemplary cases break this taboo.

Break the stereotype (Topic 2)

This alarming topic has been shrouded in the shades for years ‘Men can be raped too’. This line is flabbergasting for some pseudo-feminist women as well as the man who has stuck with the line ‘Mard ko dard nahi Hota hai. A myriad of times, some men have encountered such a thing in their life in contrast they do not disclose or admit inasmuch the fear of ‘what will society say?’.

Molestation or any bad touch is called ‘child abuse’ in childhood either a girl or a boy is going through it. However, the meaning of it changed with time. From society’s point of view, the very male child can undergo rape or molestation until his childhood. Their manliness could be ventured by society if they inform that they are bearing it in adulthood too. This patriarchal society cages women for the sake of ‘protection’ and leaves men to be ‘abused’. Men cannot be raped or women cannot be a rapist are the ghastly social taboo that hinders men to get justice which is their social or legal right. Sporadically, they fend off themselves to attain justice off the back if they do not want to be a laughing stock. Men are called ‘criminals’ until they would prove themselves guiltless. Regardless, women are called ‘victims’ until the judgment which would prove themselves ‘felonious or perpetrator’. Abuser, Criminal, Rapists, and Molester are some exclusive words for the solely male gender.

This is data where a man was raped by 4 women near Jalandhar district proximate 2 months ago. The man was pacing toward his home from a cloistral area. Meanwhile, 4 women reach in a car. They asked him about an address. Men told them the very address. Nonetheless, they act as if they do not fathom plus request him to leave them at that place. He sit in the car to aid them however they gang-raped him.

Besides this, behind the bar, many male prisoners attempt suicide on the account of encountering any physical assault by another prisoner. Moreover, male captive of the war period has to also sustain it.

As a consequence of not reporting relating to the very crime against males, data is too less to evaluate the psychology of rapists against the male gender. However, It would be malicious.

The Psychology Of A Rapist Toward Their Victim has analyzed by

Dr. Samuel D. Smithyman, a US clinical psychologist, learned this when he anonymously interviewed 50 men back in the 1970s who had confessed to having raped someone. These men had diverse backgrounds, social statuses, and, of course, different personalities and mentalities. What surprised him was how unconcerned they sounded when talking about such a criminal offense.

According to his study, these are common things amongst all rapists.

  • a lack of empathy
  • narcissism
  • feelings of hostility towards women

Furthermore,

“a research professor of psychology at the University of the South in the US state of Tennessee, told DW that “sexual assault is not about sexual gratification or sexual interest, but more about dominating people.”

Barring the fulfillment of sexual indulgence, people do rape to dominate tame ones or do ragging. Sometimes, they perform it for amusement purpose solely. However, these harrowing things become traumatizing for some people seldomly. In addition to this, they have to bear mental illness for lifetime.

As per reports by The Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC):

Nearly 1 in 38 males have experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime. We can regard that females are more rape victims however never deny the fact that males are also rape victims.

As per Statistics:


During their lives, 1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape; 75% occurred before the men were 18, and 48% before age 12 (Tjaden & Thoennes, 2000).

Despite that, no case of physical assault was filed by the men. One of the significant causes of it is that there is no law for male rape survivors. Nonetheless, the POCSO or Sexual assault at the workplace talks about child abuse or sexual assault against men at the workplace, respectively.

In light of this evidence, it is crystal clear that physical assault against males also occurs in society. A man can be raped by men or women both. Similarly to Pocso or sexual assault at the workplace that are concering to child abuse or sexual assault at workplace, respectively. Rape law should also be gender neutral. We should encourage men to raise their voices against the physical assault they are facing. Ultimately, male or female, sexual abuse is equally agonizing for both.

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||• BIHARIS ARE ILLITERATE •|| (Break the stereotype)

Presented in Break the Stereotype Series (Topic 1)

Break the stereotype series (Blog-1)

How do you imagine a bihari in your mind? Casually, Bollywood’s portrayal of ‘Bihari’ is as a gutka chewed man who is an aggressive, a molester or a rapist. Movie like ‘Gangs of Wasseypur is example of it. Since, society consider them. Being Bihari has been a stereotype from several years. You belong to Bihar. It means you only would be an illiterate. You can’t speak English language. Plus, you can’t look beautiful, wear western clothes and many more stereotypes related to this. If you keep any of these qualities, then you are staggering people by these sophisticated qualities which a bihari can’t access. If you are a bihari then, you would feel it in some phase of your life, definitely.


Biharis are always demonstrated as goons, abusive, pervert and conservative in movies. So, commoners ponder that picturisation is reality. Nonetheless, Bihar had been a prominent culture rich capital of ancient era’s dynasties. Nalanda University has been an educational hub of India. In addition to this, it has endless brilliant mind. E.g. Aryabhatta (Inventor of zero), Chandragupta Maurya (the first emperor of ancient India), Chanakya (the first economist of India) etc. Though, it is known by too fewer people.


Bihari and Bhaiya used for the people who belong to Bihar and Uttar Pradesh, respectively, word have become ‘slur’ in the society which is mostly used by the Mumbai’s localities. Bhayani words demonstrate the girl or women who belong to Uttar Pradesh. Moreover, it is mostly used to embarrass a girl or women concerning their appearance. Plus, ‘Bhayani’ illustrate a girl who has no fashion sense and all. It sounds humorous to others; however, it is too embarrassing for the people who relate to UP or Bihar. Moreover, Bihari’s character is always used for comic relief by illustrating their abusive dialogues or present illiterate personality.


Called Bihari or Bhaiya are periodically blot for their citizens. Some people use to consider UP and Bihar interchangeably. Nevertheless, they are thoroughly different states. People’s ideology regarding UP and Bihar is exceedingly quixotic.

In the year 2008, this detests presented a massive destruction towards the honor of biharis. Some maharastrians did stone pelting on Biharis who came for their livelihood. They strongly believe that people of up and bihar would take their place in works. And, it would be reason of their unemployment. They coerced to vamoose Biharis. This elaborate loathsome of some Maharashtrians in gigantic way. Some states want to avoid giving chance to other state’s citizens, plus they create the emotion of despise in their citizens towards other state citizens. This is disgusting to treat people like that.


Usually, citizens of UP and Bihar refer to one another as’ Bhaiya’. Thus, after this casualty, ‘Bhaiya’ word became a slur.

What’s the ground level reality?

You would ponder Bihari is devoid of talent, however, the explanation of Biharis in Bollywood is a bit wrong. Rather than talent or skill, Bihar is bereaved of chance. The condition of Bihar demonstrates the failure of Government, not of people. In every field, Biharis are proved their spontaneous talent. The gem of bihar shines everywhere in India as well as foreign countries. We can picture some gems of Bihar Pankaj Tripathi, late Sushant Singh Rajput, Manoj Bajpayee, Shatrughan Sinha, Tabish Kher, Ramdhari Singh Dinkar are the names which erase the blot that Biharis are only perverts, illiterate and conservative.


Two imperative reasons of undeveloped Bihar are Division of Bihar and Freight Equalization Policy. Freight equalization policy benefits India. However, it degraded Bihar. The division of Bihar and Jharkhand was equally harmful for Bihar as freight equalization policy. Bihar has no source of income. Since, the citizens of Bihar have to move to another state for their bread and butter. No source of income and education has cast them into poverty. Moreover, the high crime rate of Bihar is also induced by poverty. Because of some criminals, people consider all Bihari criminal plus they contemplate that Biharis are abusive or optimistic.


All things considered, a glance of government can heal biharis from their deep wound. Bihar government has yet to do countless works to simplify the life of their citizens. Government should bring schemes for mending their condition. Nonetheless, people should not conventionalize anything. Grounded on caste, class, religion, race, nationality, community or anything, none has the privilege to marginalize any soul. This is on youngsters hands to not to put down any human. Thus, break the stereotype of ‘Biharis are illiterate’. Give them chance to attain esteem.

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Crispy Green Sauce Pasta Recipe

Do you want to relish the healthiest food? This is palatable as well as a myriad of nutrients. You will definitely love this pasta. Basically, people along with children don’t like to eat spinach, however this is the recipe where you would love spinach so much. Try this crispy recipe soon and comment how much you liked this.


There are the ingredients and recipe to make the delicious and healthiest pasta.

Required Ingredients for Green Sauce

Pasta
Spinach
Pasta
Olive Oil
Garlic
Red chili powder
Salt
Cheese slices

Step 1 –

Boil Spinach and then rest it for 2 mins. Grind the Spinach and make a paste of it.
Now, boil the pasta.

Step 2 –

In second step,

Take a pan and put 2 big spoons of oil (olive oil) in it, put the chopped garlic in it, add the spinach paste with red chili powder, and some cheese slices after mix it for 2-3 mins then put some salt in it and add the pasta which we have boiled and mix it properly. After two mins to 5 mins, pasta is ready.

Here is our green spinach pasta ready.

Green Spinach Pasta Recipe

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